This Woman Rocks

If more people raised their young  this consciously possibly I wouldn’t hate Halloween so much.

Maybe it’s just that he wanted to be a redhead. (I couldn’t survive more than about ten minutes of the familial idyll that seems to be the main topic of the blog, but since I’m past the age of anyone actually asking me to, I can let that part blur out.)

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11 thoughts on “This Woman Rocks

  1. Yes, she does and good for her. Thank you for sharing that. I agree with everything she said. If we can’t express our inner feelings or experiment with the outrageous now and then we are shortchanging ourselves. As I told her, her son will grow up knowing he’s got a pretty cool Mom.

  2. Cute costume. I don’t get the hubbub about this since being outrageous is kind of what dressing up at halloween is all about.

    Nice that the mother backed him up, but I got the feeling that her blog post was all about her being a “cool mom” than about her son. She sounds a bit full of herself…

  3. I didn’t really have time to follow up any information on where she lives. Quite possibly someplace where people are distinctly asses about boys being manly, etc.

    I tend to be allergic to any and all blogs about the wonderfulness of kidhood and mommyhood and so on, because so much of it is “Behold my (or my kid’s) coolness,” but I thought she used memorable language; apparently it has gone viral with teenagers who are gay, bi or whatever and wish their families could be more matter of fact about it.

  4. my son was dressing in girl’s clothes when he was three. It was always fairly obvious that he was going to be gay and quite frankly i wouldn’t have had it any other way.

  5. My mother liked to dress us like girls, I rebelled at 3, my two other brothers went along with it up to 8 or 9, from school time in the house only.
    One married, to a woman 27 years his senior, the other one remained single and lived with mother till she died. The married one and his wife both died within a year of each other, no children; the single one I have not heard from for the last 2 years. Must still be alive. Both younger than I am.

    • Wow. I know there was a time when little boys were dressed much like girls till about kindergarten age, closer to the turn of the last century I think. Until 8 is something I had not heard of.

      The whole thing is so odd to think about, when you realize how normal it is for little girls to dress in “boy” types of clothes and it’s no big deal. And that goes right through adulthood, except in some situations.

    • Wow is right. Almost textbook reactions, your two younger sibs. Even as I learn how horribly common it is, I never fail to be shocked by sexually-charged parental abuse of their children. It sounds, Paul, like you were blessed with a particular strength.

  6. This *has* gone viral, at least in my little Facebook circle (and I am not proud that I am on FB but it has perfected the art of allowing people to feel social without really having to be, hence the low-level addiction). I agree she was just a good supportive mom. The others’ reactions were understandable but not excusable. Halloween IS about dressing up, and cross-dressing has always been a big part of it, and was the case at Christmastime before that, before the Victorians got a hold of it and discouraged the costumes and the wassailng.

    • When I sang with a German chorus, cross-dressing was a standard ingredient of the New Year’s party — it seemed to be the Bavarians who made most of it, whether it was local to that part of Germany I don’t know.

      Usually it was men dressing as women, but one year there was a great response when some of us put together a gender swap with the help of the Schuhplattler dancers. The men wore dirndls, the women wore lederhosen and for finesse I applied a dime-store costume mustache. We did a simple dance and brought down the house.

  7. I, too, can’t see what the fuss was about at the little chap’s school. So he wanted to dress up as a female fictional character? So what? Lovely bright colours and an opportunity to try out a completely different persona for a few hours – isn’t that what fancy dress is supposed to be about?

    Still, it does sound as though he had second thoughts a few days before he went into the school and again on the big day; I’m not sure I’d have been so militant as a mum to make him see it through unless he was fully confident and happy about it, which it doesn’t sound like he was.

    Difficult to comment though, without being there and knowing how he actually felt, rather then just how his mum felt.

    • I do have clear memories of wanting to have or do something as a child and then having second thoughts, often based on reasonably considered additional information (like how big an event is going to be, how something looks when tried on, who else is in the afterschool club, etc.) only to be browbeaten into going through with it. I don’t really get that feeling from this story, although the mom as narrator does hold us hostage.

      It sounds like the boy enjoyed his masquerade in the end, anyway. Noting that this ended up in a Today Show interview and some clinical psychologist pontificating, I do have to ask if adults have too much time to get wound up about every darn little thing children do. Geez, save it for kids who think their Superman cape means they can really fly off the carport.

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